Romance & its ideology further explored

Regrets, we all would have. In the realm of romance, we always would wonder, " What if I choice him/her instead of XXX".. or the classic, "if only, she would let me say what I feel inside.." etc..
How then do we release the pain of regret? Regret comes in so many forms and it hurts deep inside. Sometimes so deep, that our emotions are pretty much numbed and dumb by it. We would regret the strong words said, or the apology that ought to have been expressed. Maybe its, something more simple like; a missed opportunity .. Regret challenges us to consider the "what ifs" in our lives. For the more reflective and slightly depressive people, we would struggle with this more. We often wonder what were the things that we could do, or not do.. On the other hand the more care-free.. I .. believe you would have regrets too, but I'm the first to admit that I'm not the most care-free person; but I'm very certain they would feel the pain of regret just as bad.. I admire those would could bounce back from regrets quickly .. and deal with them in a manner that's 'cool'

Do you believe my dear readers, believe that you deserve someone?

I don't. Maybe in the selfish moments of my life, I would succumb to this ideology that there is someone out there that I deserve to be with. But alas, often the cold truth tends to awaken me and challenges me to be realistic.
If you believe that you truly deserve someone to love you, honour you and spend the happiest and saddest moment with you, because you simply deserve it.. that its a very selfish ideology to me.
I don't deny at times I don't struggle with my own general acceptance of PROVIDENCE, but alas while I subscribe to it, I do believe that it means that someone out there is mine, because I deserve it.
No one person is an object, a prize or a trophy. Beside the usual reasoning; ~ we all have emotions and that its a mean thing to do, believing that you deserve someone is simply believing in a certain manner of lordship you have over your partner. Let me stretch it further by saying, its like writing a Christmas wish card, tell Santa, I've been a good child, so this year I deserve to be awarded this.......
I don't believe that there's anything that I can do to deserve someone. I would believe that there are people out there who would complete me. However, I too need to be that someone that would complete her. Its not about who's meeting who's needs better etc. But its the fact that beside attraction, there needs to be a common desire to be who I'm design to be and, that would bring completeness to my partner. Its never about seeing who loves who more in a relationship, or who’s in-charge. Relationship takes hard work.. Even if you believe only this person deserves your affection, after he/she proves himself/herself, you got to ask yourself then, would you have done the same. I believe that this is common still, and to a certain extent I have an amount of respect for it, because I believe certain things needs to be work out; but wouldn’t life be much more blessed if we weren’t so aggressive in wanting things in our manner in the first place?

How about dating types?

I believe most of us fall into this activity. I know some friends who would prefer to date ladies of another race, or men of a social class. Anything wrong with that? I don’t think so. In fact, I often believe that people who have identified the personalities that they are likely to date; are usually the more mature people in relationships. They’re no longer wish-washy about whether to consider dating this person, then change the mind immediately soon after.
I too have identified through reflection and hearing close friends the personalities of ladies that I would prefer to date. Sadly, knowing the personalities that you want to date, and finding out the personalities that you attract can be quite a big difference though :(
We may never marry the person that we would want to date either ! I’ve seen friends who marry people that gets to our skins, but when you see how people change and grow in relationships; your mind would start challenging this ideology too

I know there would be many who would disagree with me, but alas, this is my blog; therefore its my privilege for me to share with you my personal thoughts. You are of course welcome to express yours.