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What is like to be 25?

A casual scribe on my facebook wall, set me thinking for the last few weeks way after my 25th birthday.

(I spent my 25th birthday in a classroom, whilst preparing for an exam..)

What does it mean to be 25 years on earth? ~~ has my existence had any significance ???

Quite honestly, I don't feel 25.. maybe since most people presume that I'm in my later 20s. In fact, majority of my colleagues at Nike didn't believe my age even on my birthday itself :)

At age 25, I'm no longer a baby, child, teen, .....youth.. but slowly embracing adulthood and its responsibilities.
But in career terms, despite dabbling in active employment for nearly 4 years, I feel I'm only at best a toddler in my career development growth.
In fact, one my search these days is to find a career coach/mentor. That story in itself would have to be another posting altogether.

However, I've never based my existence primarily on achievements but instead relationships past or present ranked closer to my heart...

It was indeed heart-warming to receive many well-wishes over facebook on my birthday; however, the reality was that in the next couple of days, I was back spending my weekends alone, in my own thoughts and filling it with fillers such as work and work-0ut sessions.

Work has been such a good excuse and distraction from my abysmal social life. With it, my ability to connect people with me in a personal level has diminished. Work has taught me to be professional and keep my emotions detached; being detached for most of the times has left me a little empty in my tank.

I tried desperately to re-connect / re-engage recently with a lady that I wanted to share more of my life with; but at the very best, I've come to know that I've become a even more difficult person to be with than a year ago.

What does it mean to be 25?

To me, it means ... the best is yet to be

Moving forward.... requires no excuses.







Critically Examin..

The British Uni exams love to start off all our 1 line exam questions with this simply phrase, " Critically examin...."

And flowing with this theme, let me introduce this simple 5 self-reflection ~ meme

Critically examin ...

  1. your overall satisfaction with life
  2. the success of resolutions made this year
  3. what you've done well this year
  4. what you wish you can do better
  5. what needs to be done to reach those goals
Hmm.. I've lots to write, but I think I'll sit on my answer just for a little while longer to organize my thoughts better..

Till tomorrow.

On grey days, I wish through the eyes of an innocent child; their world is my reality.
Relationships were honest, worthy and noble.
Out there, in this crazy destructive world; God has a soulmate for me

[ Soulmate lyrics found on http://www.completealbumlyrics.com ]

Incompatible, it don't matter though
'cos someone's bound to hear my cry
Speak out if you do
You're not easy to find

Is it possible Mr. Loveable
Is already in my life?
Right in front of me
Or maybe you're in disguise

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Here we are again, circles never end
How do I find the perfect fit
There's enough for everyone
But I'm still waiting in line

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

If there's a soulmate for everyone

Most relationships seem so transitory
They're all good but not the permanent one

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

No worries folks. I ain't depressed. Vertigo is just amplifying the imbalances of my life.

It is easier to complain 


Isn't it so?

Easier to complain and to wonder of the What ifs that should fallen our way instead of our things that did turn our way?

We can ..... blame the weather, fatigue, etc etc for not getting into shape.

Blame technology or poor quality checks when things break down.

Blame work schedules when we don't show care & concern to the people that we should.

Blame the lack of opportunities when we remain single :) (Okay.. that's my excuse these days!)_

Blame XXXXXX for doing XXXX work wrongly etc.. 

and the list goes on.. (you get the picture...)

Sometimes, we even form groups to comfort one another to hear each other's grouses and sorrows.. And to me, that's not a bad thing; after all, emotionally we get a sense of relieve after a heartfelt session of pouring our hearts out ... irregardless if we need the advise melted out thereafter.

I'm just wondering aloud, if we spend the same amount of effort complaining sometimes on giving thanks for the things that were indeed in our favor, wouldn't life be radically different?

I know, we all love to hate that one person who seems forever cheerful. The one who can find the ray of sunlight in the darkest of storm. But hey, to be cheerful does not mean to rub your 'joy' in the wounds of others.  I'm most amused when I witness individuals who are blissful unaware of the plight of others; hence the barge of angry stares when a smile is seen in the mist of tears.

Hmm, but still little by little.. I hope to have more of that perspective in my life. 

Why?

Because, there is so much more to life than just whinning it away. There're so many more to explore, to experience.. to witness. Yes, I wouldn't hesitate to be a listening ear to my pals; but for me .. I want to challenge myself to not live in a life of excuses and complains.

Gotta get tough and in shape.

Just DO IT!

Seasons of the Sun..

In the midst of meandering through this life journey, I realize the existence of an eternal witness and teacher that always succeed in making me feel silly at the end of the day~ Good O' Father TIME..

TIME has bore me - patience, trust, belief, the importance of planning, God's love and many more.

~all within the seasons of the sun.

Shouldn't we than live for the moment, since the hours and days will take care of itself anyways irrespective of our input.

Sometimes, I amuse myself when I look at back at the things I fret over... relationships, character building, wealth management etc..

Recently, witnessing several relationship galloping towards the next phase has reassure me that ... God's has their lives planned in PERFECT TIMING. Well, I guess that's what we call ~ all in God's good timing.

But of course, don't we all love to chip in and let our FATE rest in our hands?

While attempting to master the right timing, it will eventually fall short of perfection by miles wide.

I guess at the end of the day, I come to the simple conclusion that I'll be better off mastering the very circumstances and challenges in this current season.

The YEAR of the RAT


Its been well over 2 months over-due, countless drafts  were being saved ... with CNY celebrations still ringing in .. there's no more opportune time than now to give a quick update.

After a 4months break to rest and focus more on studies, I'm back to work full time with Nike Singapore. The journey of being employed is amongst the many drafts saved;.. to cut the long story short, this job is a reminder of God's providence, love and attention to detail in my life.

How GREAT is our God!

CNY celebrations has been a wonderful time to catch up with family and friends. To me, meeting old friends only once a year seems ridiculous, but nevertheless, heart-warming. Just not too long ago, I finally met up with a family that I should have visited well over 10 years ago. In this mad-cap weekend, I managed to even celebrate 1 birthday, witness 2 new-born babies, visited 3 families unannounced etc..  To see everyone healthy, happy and loving is the greatest gift of all.

Not everyday will be CNY celebrations or romantic like V-day, but these fantastic man-made 'hallmark' days serve as a milestone for evaluation,  a time for celebration, communion and most importantly to remind us that there is life beyond work, school, chores and tasks!

Happy Lunar New Year once again!