Reflections of a _________heart

Ever wonder how do some get passed failed relationships by going after a new one or some who would just pine for the heart that no longer sets for you...

I think for people to hear words like,"Move on...get over it, or even the infamous,closure...etc.."

sound familiar anyone?

Well, its not my intention to knock anyone in this entry, lest I become subjected to a lawsuit...but really, theere isn't a fool-proof manner in how you should react or behave after a relationship ends.. Everyone should be allowed to react naturally.

Let me share this with u..

From a very personal point of view, I believe that the Lord has helped me attain closure in my last relationship.. Has my feelings been sorted out, well most of the times, I believe its under control... But what does it really mean??

"Moving on..." is one of the fave catch-phrase used. And I do see the wisdom in those words...becoz when once a relationship is broken, sometimes one or two parties will get stuck in time..< The good happy times. > Ok...some will also think of the unpleasant moments..but there's a different tune...so bear with the happier version..Thinking of happy thoughts is no a wrong matter..Infact for me, many times these were bittersweet becoz, it feels great to know of the beautiful relationship was, but it hurts so much that its no longer there right? So therefore, we get entrapped in these fantasy of the past..Its not wrong, but its not healthy. Its extremely horrid for emotions and will tax people financially too.. I remember the extrems will go at great length to re-create the happy scenes..its kinda sweet actually (positive/romantic perspective) but to really release the person to live beyond the relam of history is ever so challenging..
sometimes, its simply becoz , the person is afraid to leave that fantasy, not becoz of silliness but of fear. Fear of being rejected, irrelevant in the new world, or that it will never be appreciated again. All those fears are enough to paralyize others from ever taking the step of moving on.. And really, moving on is a hard, painful step for those whose memories seems only to work for the long term..
I still struggle to fully appreciate moving on, becoz everyone tells me the same thing, but honestly when u do ask them what it really means, then u come to realize everyone has different views on it, or some simply just quote it from...somewhere .. To me, whenever I find it so hard to move on in my life(happens alot!) I silently remind myself of my faith; my trust in the Lord. In the words of Jerimah 29:11; that the Lord never has nor will plan to hurt the ones he loves dearly. In fact, that very verse; provokes a catelouge of emotions by itself..but do read it.. It helped me understand what it meant to move on, but MOVING TO CHRIST.

"GET OVER IT !!"--- it screams desperation doesn't it? But getting over something takes another of willpower, emotional strength and attention. Either consciously or not, getting over it means..jumping or ramming thru an issue right?
I've gotten over the relationship. But I don't think I've failed in it. Really, thise wasn't my very own personal thoughts, but the conclusion after spending hours, crying, praying and communicating with my heavenly love. How could LOVE fail? But in the world's context, I need to get over something..Thus, what I'm aware of getting over is ...really my relationship with the beautiful lady. Have I gotten over her? Well..that's a tight spot ...but I've an answer...best left..in my heart.

"CLOSURE!"~ as it suggest is very focused manner of seeking an ending of something.. Thus to get closure I believe is so very important.. But getting closure unlike the rest, doesn't just come. It might take more than 2 people to get it, and it'll drag till months end..If u ask me, this could be the easiest or the hardest. Becoz for me, closure is LETTING GO.

and it could be the easiest or the hardest to ever achieve.

Thus really to sum it all up, its like simply asking the question...when the time is right..."Can you let go, let God take control?"

that doesn't mean you just sit down and sulk or let the other party feel miserable. How could u do such a thing? If you have love/respect for the person, then please ... let God take control and response to the person in the very same manner, you would want to be treated, or how you would treat Christ...for every soul/heart is percious.