Going past break-ups & "issues"

First cut is always the deepest isn't it?
For many of us who can still remember the experience of going through the first break-up, its pain, the shock and agony of picking up the pieces that makes things such a big impression on our lives..
Of course, like falling down, after a while, you will recover better, learn to make more precautions but then again; like a vase being put back together, cracks will exist.

but that isn't the topic of today's entry.. instead I rather focus on the fact that when you've reached my age, 23 and counting, you start to realize that besides all the perceived~ fantastic people (those that you wish were your partners BUT already belong to someone else), there will be that one person; the one bright light amongst the darkness that will set things apart.

Then you wonder aloud, if that person is so wonderful, how come still single??? Doesn't that ever cross your mind? It does to me.

Everyone has a past. Some of us have a little history that we wished we could burn off and bury it into the deepest trench of the world, but even if we did; something the cracks would be still apparent. These cracks are often called "ISSUES"

Even if the very person who has never experience the heartache or scars of relationships might have some 'issues'.. Do we only accept a person when his/her issues are settled; since in reality that everyone would have a couple of them..

The common issues include, a lingering emotion for a past lover, un forgiveness, fear of betrayal , etc etc..

What then are we to do?

well, someone told me if you're really interested in the person, then be prepared to walk that journey of unwinding issues with the person you care for. How true and wise the words are.

of course some issues, you just have to sit & wait for the person to resolve them on their own. Sometimes if you're given the chance, you will be the companion and be bedrock for that person to unravel the knots in life.

On the flip side, we too are also riddled with our own issues. Should we share them to someone special and risked being judged, ridiculed or feel damn uncomfortable for months with regards to it??

So often, I feel that a lot of these issues are difficult to confront on their own. But they still need to be address in the long term for a healthy relationship.. after all conflict management between two people is easily one of the vital keys that can make or break relationships.

At the end of the day, we all got to evaluate if its worthwhile personally to invest your energy and resources to walk with that person.
Just in the same way, as we all struggle with our own issues, one day we gotta ask if we want to share them with our loved ones and let them help us through.

I want to try. To try not just be willingly to bear the burden's of someone else but also let her be able to help me too.