How do I not judge others?
Christ drew a line, let those who are blameless stand forth on one side and judge the people. And I know which divide of the line I deserve to be in.
But how do I resist the human urge to pass judgement on someone; even though I've no right to do so?
I'm in a knot, when I can still feel a fondness over a past relationship, wish the person the very best, but feel unworthy myself, and also confused that yr love(d) has chosen someone who, ironically carries similar resemblance to you. And compounding to tat, she seems to have gone back to her ways before you two were apart, therefore causing the reason that the relationship didn't work becoz she wanted to grow as simply ....reasons?
How should I run away from the desire to judge? I really am lost. To judge the intention of others, or to smear someone's name as they've done to mine.
Should I feel angry? I feel a sense of lost and pity inside left.
the judgement I've for myself is simply of a fool. I'm a fool.. People say I don't move on, or I can't get over it.. I don't know what it means to fulfill the term, getting over it, but atleast I do know I've not intention or interest to pursue a relationship, past or present. I don't live in the pain of re-living past, happy memories. I'm learning to be a happy single, focusing on God's purpose in my life. I'm a fool too, becoz I can't act to show you how I've gotten over it.. But I'm going thru it.. so I ain't avoiding or backing down from anything.
I'm sorry if I don't fit the bill of getting over it, maybe its juz becoz the issue is of my 'left-over' affection.. well.. I don' t know. Let it be. I'm not at all interested to pursue her, in fact, I don't avoid her anymore.. but even though I may be treated like glass, it would only hurt for 5 secs.. then, life goes on.
But Lord, take away the desire to judge from me. For I'm not worthy to judge, to take my past issues and make them right in my eyes. Lord... grant me peace and cause no pain anymore.
2 comments:
- At 12:25 pm Anonymous said...
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Yeah, you're right, you shouldn't be judging others. Imagine if someone judged you, they'd say you haven't grown one bit because you've been blogging about the same old stuff over and over and over again. I'm wondering who's the person that resembles you man, don't know anybody who does. Well you shouldn't be judging her growth because you haven't been part of her life for some time. So you wouldn't have any clue, and hearing from others about her life doesn't give you the right to say she hasn't changed much or that she has gone back to her ways because it's just hearsay. She's made a choice in the past and present and will make a choice in the future so start respecting it and if you say you do respect it then show that you mean it and stop commenting about her every now and then. It's not very nice telling everyone who reads your blog that she has gone back to her ways when you don't know what's going on in her life. And it doesn't matter who your source of information is because as long as it's from a human, it's never accurate. So Shane, unless God is telling you to blog about her and her life and unless she tells you to, stop it and start blogging about your life (it doesn't include her). And haven't you "heard"? She has lots of gal friends now who will come to her defence and who will support her and be by her side at the snap of a finger and who are genuinely interested in her growth. Doesn't that sound familiar Shane? So don't make yourself look so bad when you blog about things that aren't true especially when there are so many people who are involved in her life and know what's really going on. Knowing you Shane, you're going to come up with some defence in response and attempt to sound as logical as possible. Or you might say you have no reason to defend yourself. I'm doing what you do best, speculating. Good luck buddy.
- At 12:02 am shane said...
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dearest anonymous,
although your writing was pretty hard to read w/o paragraphs, n i had a long day @ work..
I would like to thank you for a well-thought out comment here. I don't get much comments as most ppl won't bother to reply someone who writes aloud at an impluse.
Thank you once again.
Do give me sometime to chew over your ideas and suggestions; many which i agree.
Till the next time,
God be with you.