The End doesn't justify means.
There's an old saying, it doesn't matter how u get there, its more important tat u'll get there.
Is tat true for u? Do u know someone who does?
I'm old school, and I disagree. The end NEVER justify the means.
Some people are winners, and they do watever ways to get there. Some ppl are more extreme, cheat and kill their way thru. Some are more harmless, some may gossip, lie. Some are even more discreet, they just gently drop little dis-encouragements, to break the person, to get their own aim.
Are these three ppl any different?
In this world, where winners are glorified, how many people remember the people tat actually take part, the people tat proably work just as hard. But they didn't win.
What I'm trying to say, is, no matter who u can lie to others, even to yourself, there's a part of us inside that know we can never justify the end with the means with how we get there. You can ignore the 'guilt' or justify it by saying God/ppl will learn to grow up/out of it, or even rationlize tat u're doing good for the person, but it doesn't change the fact, that ur 'good' means(intentions) can not justify how u did it.
The end can be a small matter, such as praise, or bigger issues such as giftings etc..
We're all living in a community by large, therefore I urge us, please do consider this, that yar right intentions, motives cannont justify how or why we did certain things. We may have the right intentions, but we didn't do it rightly or we're planning to make a decision tat affects 2 or more ppl, don't use the right intentions as an OKAY of doing it without wise counsel. I urge u to take wise counsel before a decision. If u do after making the decision, U're only seeking affirmation, not getting advise.
Its like, u agree with me right? and asking for confirmation. Its plan folly.
I believe by doing so, things become clearer for all parties involved, and ppl may understand your intentions better. Involve the person, becoz he/she is also at the reciving end. Maverick decisions should only be done in concern with yourself.
If not, we're setting ourselves up for hurts and pains.
If u believe that God can heal the person, have the same faith, that God will give u the best way to get yar intention across. Take some time before making certain decisions, not hours, but days, weeks and sometimes even months.
If there's someone out there that u've the right intentions, but maybe he/she didn't understand, stretch forward to apologise and make amends to the person. So many relationships have broken down due to pride and bitterness. Don't let the devil plan seeds of tat into the life we've.
Don't have blind faith tat God will find a plan and heal the person. Yes, God can heal the person, but I think the whole exercise isn't abt just healing the person, but us, putting our hands up to the person, and restore the r/s back into the fellowship of Christ. Both parties need to be healed. Faith w/o works can be just lip service.
How do stretch foward, well, we can start with prayer, and for us to be humble, and tat God will prepare the person to listen and bless the fellowship.
Its a joy to make new r/s, but from experience, there is so much more joy when r/s are being restored, thru the grace of God.
...let's all be humble. : )